People, circumstances can cause the Christian great emotional pain and unsettled spiritual defeat. This is especially true when:
1) ...We become introspective...focusing on our failures. Coming to believe we deserve every bit of our emotional turmoil. This is especially true for spiritually sensitive folks who crave Christ-like reality in their lives.
2) ...Our sense of self-worth is tied to other's opinions of us or being in control of those “opinions” or circumstances around us.
3) ...We forget God has a purposeful plan to make us more and more like Jesus Christ. Rather than putting our focus on Him, we forget that God has placed that person or circumstance in our lives. We focus on the “fix” rather than realizing God's working in our lives. BTW...it may not result in the “fix” we initially thought important, but God will bring about His perfect result as we put aside our introspection, self-worth, insecurities and be fully confident in Christ. The writer of Hebrews 12:1-3 put it this way:

...let us strip off anything that slows us down or holds us back, and especially those sins that wrap themselves so tightly around our feet and trip us up; and let us run with patience the particular race that God has set before us. 2 Keep your eyes on Jesus, our leader and instructor. He was willing to die a shameful death on the cross because of the joy he knew would be his afterwards; and now he sits in the place of honor by the throne of God. 3 If you want to keep from becoming fainthearted and weary, think about his patience as sinful men did such terrible things to him. (TLB)

The third verse from the Hebrews passage is key - “3 If you want to keep from becoming fainthearted and weary, think about his patience as sinful men did such terrible things to him.” Jesus contemplated another “fix” (“Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from Me, yet not My will, but Yours be done.” (Luke 22:42). That's what “Christ-likeness” is about...”Your will be done.” When we take this point of view, mark it down, God will perfect us and bless those around us. My prayer for you and me this day is this: Lord, how often do we allow unscriptural introspection, self-worth, and unbelief to bring us emotional and spiritual defeat. Lord, we want to put our rest and assurance in You. Strengthen our faith. Amen

Walk with the King today and be a blessing.